Psychologist, writer and innovator, Geoff Warburton has spent the last 25 years studying love and loss. Geoff challenges conventional apathy about grief and …
Alana Sheeren believes in love, beauty and the transformative power of grief. After the stillbirth of her son she began writing about her personal journey in…
Excellent Excellent…. Thank you so much for sharing your open heart and
wisdom xo
Thank you Geoff, at the end of the video I wanted to join your audience in
applauding you. Thank you.
Excellent. And he certainly practices what he preaches. It must take a lot
of courage to go up on stage and be vulnerable like that.
It seems to be hardest to face for heterosexual men, or is that just my
perception, I wonder why? Fear of showing vulnerability, weakness,
perhaps?
My mum is very ill and this helps so much
I think I knew everything Geoff said, but it is so easy to get sucked into
the vortex of feeling sorry for yourself. I lost my spouse after a two and
a half year battle to cancer, at the age of 29, with a 21 month in tow.
During Christmas number 2, and with the 2 year anniversary of his death
approaching I find it so easy to use his death as an excuse to check out
and just survive. However, I have a child to raise, and I refuse to model
for her that only surviving is good enough. Geoff is completely right, I
have been to hell and back, but actually feeling the emotions, and walking
through the fire of grief, can bring you to a place of enlightenment, peace
and gratefulness, if even for only a few moments at a time, that are
absolutely mind blowing. My husband fought hard for his life, and now I
fight for mine. I honour my husband by living well, living happy, and
living fully.
TED talk on the challenges of grief and loss: The Adventure of Grief: Dr
Geoff Warburton at TEDxBrighton
An excellent video on grief.
Hi Penny, thanks for your comment. I am so deeply sorry for the loss of
your son. You have my attention piqued…I would LOVE to hear about the
travels with your son’s ashes, and about how grief has changed you in good
ways. There’s a few ways to tell of your experience on my blog. Hope you
find one that resonates. I look forward to hearing from you. Becky P.S. I
tried to include the website address but it’s not allowed from this site so
sent you a reply via YouTube with the link shown.
Amazing, beautiful, moving, deep! Wonderful talk!!!
Set decoration is half assed. 🙂
Hi Penny, how about you email me at [email protected] because this site
won’t allow me to provide my website address
Hello, where can I find this with spanish subtitles? Thanks
I’m having trouble dealing with my gf death. Its so hard, I don’t even want
to be here.
perfect!
Way to go Geoff. Love that courage, love that message. My daughter died 3
years ago (she was 23) and after 18 months of holding it back, I opened
myself up to a whole new way of living, certain of her blessing. I’ve taken
(and left) her ashes wherever I travel, started a blog and a Facebook Page,
Joyful Mourning, to begin the conversation about how grief CAN change us in
good ways. People want to talk about this stuff!
Hi, Becky, Thank you so much for your compassionate response. I really
appreciate it. Maybe we can “friend” each other and write more personally?
How do I access your blog? Many thanks, Penny
As soon as it gets on TED.com I think!
Freaking Loving and Amazing!
Lovely to listen to your calm and heart-felt words again, Geoff. I have
just lost a very close friend and have tried to keep my heart open
throughout the process: it hurts but it’s real. Clare Thalmann
a wonderful talk. another counter-slogan to “don’t die of ignorance” could
be “live through the knowledge of loss.”
Becky, Many thanks for your comments. My son died 4 1/2 years ago, and I
also scattered his ashes around the world. I’ll check out your blog, too.
Yes, grief has made me more compassionate, and more embracing the joy we’re
given here on earth. Dancing a lot helps (I do it in honor of my son, who
was a DJ, musician, passionate music lover).
Superb video, full of depth and simple truths…
Thank you so much for this amazing video. My lovely daughter, Kaycee,
committed suicide just over a month ago. She was 22. My grief has been
overwhelming. This talk has given me so much….I’m learning to not avoid
the pain and the grief..the “abyss.” This is what makes me human. Someday,
surviving the abyss will give me the courage to live, and “live well”….to
honor my daughter and the 22 years I had with her. Thank you.
Kristina: Pain/blame…if only. My daughter committed suicide over 20 years
ago, victim of BPD, age 29. What got me through? The doctors indicted
parents (cause: poor parenting) Anger. A good thing for me. How dare them.
Twenty-five years I avoided reading her journals. Her nudging grew
stronger, resulting in “her” book When Love Is Not Enough Chronicles of
LauraJo. Her message: “We are all doing the best we can” my message…You
are not to blame. God Bless…
I am sorry you lost someone so special to you. You are not alone. I lost my
only sibling six years ago. It’s been hell. But I am still here. Still
learning. You can’t walk around it, or go over it or under it. You have to
go through it to get to the other side. Just keep walking. And find people
you can relate to and talk to who understand. I belong to support groups on
FB. Do what you have to do, be good to yourself, don’t give up. You are not
alone.
She is so beautiful, very impressive.
I understand what she is trying to say but I have to disagree. I don’t
consider losing a friend or book club grief. I feel like you don’t know
enough about grief to be speaking
Grief is definitely powerful if you take it in, use it and finally, move on
(speaking from personal grief, of course). Great talk.
I so appreciate your calm, compassionate presence. And your vulnerability.
Thank you.
I have had the pleasure (yes, pleasure! in grief work!) of working with
Alana, and attending her retreat, Picking Up the Pieces, in September 2011.
If any of her words in this TED Talk resonate with you, I urge you to look
up her work or contact her. She has a unique ability to listen and to guide
you – being the leader – while also sharing her own stories and working
right along beside you. She is wise without being intimidating, caring and
nurturing without “mothering,” and exudes calm.
Hey Alana!!! How lovely to see you here. What a lovely talk you gave! Thank
you for sharing your vulnerability with all of us. What a gorgeous human
being you are and what a gift Benjamin has been to the world.